Podcast interviews with our mentors/exhibitors

Listen to our mentors tell us how they can use their skills to help us start over….

Elissa Da Costa: Barrister, Mediator, Collaborative Lawyer

Specialists in Matrimonial Finance, Cohabitation and Civil Partnership Disputes.

Jaci Godman Irvine: Estate Legacy Services Wills and trusts

I work with Estate Legacy Services and I am a member of the KCC Buy With Confidence Scheme.

Julia Armstrong: Coach, therapist and author

Val & Don Rush: TR resolutions Matrimonial financial mediators

A personal mediation service for divorce/separation settlements. Independent, impartial and no need for solicitors or court appearance.

Bernay Laity: in:colour Colour psychologist and image consultant

Our aim is to help you work consciously with colour to improve your well-being and communicate the right messages to the world.

Using the children as weapons

This was handed to me by Linda Lamb of MayoWynneBaxter in Brighton – a collaborative lawyer who often hands this poem to parents who are in the process of divorce.

For anyone who has ended a relationship with children at it’s heart, this is a powerful and moving reminder of why we take a long term view.

For those who are still on the threshhold – read this, and hold it in your hearts before you say anything, do anything – and give your lawyer a copy to boot.

Weapons

Now our marriage is spiralling,

spinning beyond our control

and we have wounded each other

lovelost, bowbroken, ringthrown,

first we used silence as weapons

then we used words and then fists

the arms race was swift and impressive

our hands are now empty, they twist

in the dust. We have thrown

everything away but our anger

and still we have to keep fighting.

But there’s something we can do together:

let’s use the children as infantry,

let’s use the children as spies,

let’s bring them up with the Director’s cut

with spin and with spite and with lies,

let’s use the children as weapons

let’s use the children as snares

we’ll have plenty more years of reprisals

if we make our unhappiness theirs.

By Clare Kirwan

Survey and a friend in need

7 questions: Serious issues with room for some humour too.  A quick and balanced survey I hope.

Help a friend in need this Xmas: tell them about the SOS Village

‘Healthy chocolate’ to be won, and free tickets for SOS to all participants (to give to a friend in need?)

Click Here to take survey

I want to use the SOS event in the spring as a platform to create some positive change, and you completing the survey will really help that to happen. It’s really short and focuses on areas not given (I believe) enough consideration by the national media.

I thank you in advance!

Help a friend in need this Xmas: tell them about the SOS Village

Friends and family going through relationship breakups need emotional and practical support.  The SOS Village (www.sos-village.org) is a good place to start.  No adverts – just good advice and shared experiences.

There are still some spaces left for mentors and exhibitors at SOS.

The National Press call it “the first UK divorce fair”

We call it the Starting Over Show

All the things you need to know about breaking up and starting over in one SOS

Useful Information

Honest Communication

Personal Transformation

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