Tankus The Henge
March 8, 2009 by Suzy
Tankus the Henge met 2 years ago whilst working at fairgrounds and theme parks on the outskirts of London. They are steam driven.
Jaz Delorean is the singer. He is also responsible for piano, accordion, trombone and top hat.
Chris Owen plays guitar and sleeps in the van next to the carousel.
Dan Mason plays bass and administers to the early morning drunks at The Grey Horse.
George Bird plays trap kit and superdrum.
They are aged between 20 and 22. Most of the time they have known each other has been spent touring, recording or working on contraptions that throw live human beings into the air at great speed.
They will have an album out this year. In the meantime their download only single, ‘Smiling Makes The Day Go Quicker’, is available on itunes.
“Almost the Beatles” – BBC radio
“Tankus the Henge are going to be huge” – XFM
www.myspace.com/tankusthehenge
Playvybz Radio at SOS
March 4, 2009 by Suzy
Lambeth Business Award 2009 finalist Playvybz.com radio and training academy present professional Life Coach and talk show host Livingston Gilchrist, a proud contributer to the SOS Show 2009;
“A bend in the road is not the end of the road…unless you fail to take the turn!”
LG’s serene and refreshing take on life will blow you away and leave you ready to conquer the world in a massive way.
Here at Playvybz we’re all about music, streamed live over the internet, self-produced, inclusive and free of playlists, capturing the true sound of London and projecting it to a global listenership-that means you!
The Playvybz Family (you really should know this, but it’s probably been a long day so we’ll help ya out) is a team of DJs and Hosts who have been taking over the world (and your computer) since June 2007!
Kick back and enjoy our top selection-you’re in the right place for UK talent, R&B, Bashment, Roots Reggae, Hip-Hop, Business and Personal Development shows, Soul, Lovers Rock, Revival, Rare Groove, Neo-Soul, Soulful House, Old Skool Garage, Disco, Gospel, Underground House, Funk, Jazz, Indie, Rock, Pop, Dancehall, Dance, Electro and Ambient Techno (try and say that in one breath)!
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SOS online magazine March 09 Issue
March 4, 2009 by Suzy
Information for divorce and breakup
Inspiration for Starting Over
shared stories
Francine Kaye is known as ‘The Divorce Doctor’ on Channel 5’s ‘The Wright Stuff’ but she has had personal experience at the sharp end and understands what her clients are going through.
Francine provided a relationship workshop at SOS on 15 March which was free to our visitors.
See more about our speakers at SOS including Francine’s workshop here:
See other personal stories here:
free mini book download
7 ways to leave your lover: breaking up without breaking down
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sos village information
What is ‘financial mediation’ and how can it help keep us out of court?
Listen to Val Rush interviewed about financial mediation here:
sos village inspiration
A tough divorce experience led Kirsten Gronning to become a coach to help others in her situation, and then to help create the Breakup Angels who will be attending SOS. Breakup Angels is an innovative organisation providing personal relationship support and help, information and advice to men and women in the UK and overseas who are affected by relationship breakdown – before, through and after separation and divorce.
See Kirsten’s personal story here…..
sos live event news
What business can I start whilst holding down a day job and children?
How would you like to introduce your friends to beautiful shoes, healthy chocolate and save them money on their bills – and earn money at the same time?
Well it seems that you can. Read our article on Shoe Queen, Xocai Chocolate and Utility Warehouse here….
financial surgery
Free financial surgery at the Starting Over Show – see who was there and what they were offering
diary of a sole parent
short film: a visual taster of the Starting Over Show March 2009
Click here to see our short film about the March 2009 SOS event: this is the short film we made just prior to the event …
networking links
Wikivorce forums packed with useful advice and guidance
Other great resources for starting over
Need word of mouth recommended professionals to talk to? Free access via CertainShops – professionals online
Promotions:
The Shoe Queen Stunning Sale is causing a frenzy,don’t forget to call 01342 824871 to make sure we have your size!
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C.J.H. Consultancy Services can help
In partnership with:
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LAST NIGHT IN THE PUB….
March 4, 2009 by Suzy
2007
Brian was really very upset about me ending the relationship. For a while, I thought he was going to transform into a bunny-boiler. But my suggestion that he get some counselling seemed to shock him into ceasing the 3am text messages, in which he bewailed the fact that I had not given the relationship a chance.
I knew we might have different views on the subject of love when I asked him to qualify `unconditional’ – my usual barrage of `but what if’s’ resulted in Brian re-qualifying his answers to such an extent that he defined no less than three different versions of `unconditional love’. Personally, I believe that there is only one kind.
When my kids’ father left us over 3 years ago, and was in a state of depression and numb confusion, I remember telling him that the children still love him, and will always love him. Nothing he does – infidelity, dishonesty, self-destructive incompetence – was of any concern to three young children under 8 years of age. I wanted him to hang on tight to that realisation because I knew it was the only thing that might reduce some of the effects of his guilt, and encourage him to make his role as father the bedrock of his emotional rehabilitation.
It’s one thing to have your partner leave you, but to disappear and leave behind his children held far greater terror for me. A cruelty to the children that I would feel responsible for, and had to do everything I could to prevent. Our children’s unconditional love at this time was both a source of deep pain, knowing we had failed them, and also the only distant light of hope in a strange, dark new world.
It was not the only time that I had to face the fact that the man I had fallen in love with, was not truly in love with me. A recent year long relationship had ceased – the first since my children’s father had left – and before going out with Brian I was cheesed off and angry that my previous boyfriend could be so foolish not to appreciate how lucky he was to have my love on offer. I was uncomfortable with the fact that yet another man could be offered so much – all that I had to give – and yet turn it down.
So I had a pretty good idea of what Brian would be going through when I made a complete hash of breaking up our two month-old relationship, because I knew that something was `missing’ in the relationship and didn’t believe I would ever find that missing thing, whatever that thing was.
I made things even worse by telling him that I knew all about how he felt and gave seasoned advice on how he would avoid unnecessary pain by staying away from me, giving himself time to grieve for the relationship before starting a new relationship as friends, maybe even going out with someone else. I’m surprised I didn’t get a smack in the mouth.
So what is Brian doing that is so different to how I reacted when I snatched back my heart and went into a woeful sulk? It was the three pints of Guinness I drank last night with my previous boyfriend that made it all come clear. Having given up on trying to continue the friendship we had and `moving on’ – or sleeping with someone else, which often comes to the same thing – we can now manage small doses of each other and for my part, there is great relief in that we have become almost like strangers. Now we can start again being mates and, so long as I do not peer too long into his eyes lest I fall in, I can even manage to get mildly drunk and know that I will still go home alone. A major achievement, I can tell you.
I used to think that if you love someone then you will accept anything – even the fact that they do not see you as their sole mate. And you offer them yourself as second best, and pretend that you can deal with it because you love them. But what kind of a gift of love is that? “Ok, I love you SO much that I will take up space in your life meant for the woman of your dreams (who according to you is not me) and sleep in your bed, drive away loneliness and make sure you have someone on your arm so you are not the only one of your mates without a girlfriend, and all the while I shall be ruining the opportunity for you to go and find what you truly do want in a sole mate, and discover that special love. I shall effectively sabotage your future life just because you have been misguided enough not to realise that the person you seek should be ME…..”
These days, that all sounds to me like neediness, selfishness even. It certainly doesn’t sound much like love.
My interpretation of unconditional love is the letting go thing. You know – if you really love them, you let them go. Well, like most of these old sayings, it’s true. It’s also very liberating, to know that you can go on loving someone forever even when they are not the person who will become your life partner. But the one person I cannot explain this to, is Brian. He’s still too lost in his own emotions and anger at not being allowed to give what he wants to give. But if he really does feel what he says he feels, hopefully he’ll learn to let go and allow love to fill our future friendship, and not use it as a weapon of guilt.
The only reason I feel optimistic that he will not end up stalking me but will finally understand what `unconditional’ really means, is because, like me, he has children. It’s one of the most important lessons they teach you. I still have a long way to go to be quite as good at it as my kids are, but I reckon I should get plenty of practice over the next few years.
podcasts of interviews: relationship coach and a mediator
March 4, 2009 by Suzy
Going through divorce or relationship breakup, relationship skills can be in short supply. Here are two people experienced in helping others through life changing experiences using their respective skills, who explain how they work:
Julia Armstrong: Coach, therapist and author
Val & Don Rush: TR resolutions Matrimonial financial mediators
A personal mediation service for divorce/separation settlements. Independent, impartial and no need for solicitors or court appearance.
a taster of what awaits you….
March 2, 2009 by Suzy
… when you visit Starting Over Show on Sunday 15 March
Soundtrack by Tankus the Henge
Speakers at SOS
March 1, 2009 by Suzy
Speakers currently booked at the Brighton Event 28 March 2010
11.00 – 11.30
Debbie Catt – ‘No More If Onlys’ http://www.nomoreifonlys.com
Inspirational Speaker & Coach
Overcome the setbacks in your life – especially redundancy – and achieve your ambitions.
Debbie is a highly respected and inspiring Speaker with more than 30 years’ experience in helping people overcome setbacks and achieve their goals and ambitions. Her ‘No More If Onlys’ Programme is a comprehensive series of inspirational seminars and personal coaching to help you overcome the difficulties and setbacks in your life.
Welcomed by international audiences, her presentations give encouragement and confidence to help anyone who has an unfulfilled ambition, no matter how big or small. Debbie encourages people of all ages to ‘be the best they can be’ through imparting the tried and tested skills and techniques that have guided her through a turbulent life and career. Her no nonsense advice and guidance has proved invaluable to people whatever their circumstances. Debbie also has particular expertise in providing support to help you recover from the upheaval and ordeal of redundancy http://www.helpwithredundancy.com
11.45 – 12.15
Gina Hardy: Conscious Union Relationship education, yoga teaching and healing
I am a relationship educator and motivational speaker on the subject of love. I am also a yoga teacher and natural therapist offering couples and individuals education and methods of healing themselves and their relationship.
GINA HARDY
Having spent 24 years meandering through her own river of love, which many times was fraught with twists and turns and white water, including divorce soon after marrying, Gina has a wealth of experience to share. Her passion, through her own transformation and education process, is about helping couples and particularly singles become conscious in their behaviour in relationships and her tools include the work of partner yoga, a powerful way to re-connect through non-verbal dialogue. Gina is convinced most of us really don’t understand why we do what we do in relationships and conflict is only inner healing trying to take place. Her aim is to reduce the worrying divorce rates that exist in the world and help humanity get out of their heads and into their hearts.
“Be the person you want to attract” – GH January 2007
Gina’s latest Blog – http://www.ginahardy.blogspot.com/
Gina’s web site www.consciousunion.co.uk
12.30 – 13.00
Julia Armstrong: Coach, therapist and author
Coaching in realising human potential. Julia is a leading performance coach and counsellor working at the core level with over 30 years experience in helping others find happiness and fulfillment. Brighton event.
13.15 – 13.45
John Stebbing & Bob Bastian: Stehen Rimmer LLP and JAS Mediation Services Family law and mediation
John leads a team of lawyers offering mediation, legal assistance with family law problems of every description and an innovative style of resolving difficulties through collaborative law.
Although based in Eastbourne, our services stretch far beyond Sussex.
It is accepted that breaking up is hard to do! .. but we are here to help you do it in style.
- through Service
- through Teamwork
- through making You letting us take the strain
- through sound Legal advice and information
- through us managing the Experience for you.
We will offer you the support and guidance through negotiations and the legal issues giving you the opportunity to resolve all your concerns wherever possible with style.
John Stebbing
Solicitor/Mediator and Collaborative Lawyer
14.00 – 15.00
SHARE YOUR STORY with Suzy Miller, creator of Starting Over Show – in 5 minutes!
It may be that your vision is to break up right without a fight; it may be to start a new business; or are you going to move forward from bereavement or another life changing event……
For one hour during the day Suzy wants to hear your starting over story. What are you starting over from at this time? What is your positive vision of where you want to be in a year’s time and what support are you seeking to get to that great place in your life?
Some of your stories will be posted on the www.sosvillage.org website to inspire others (just knowing that it IS possible to look forward to a positive future IS very inspiring). Some may be used in the documentary about the exhibitors being filmed at the shows.
Please put your name down and book your chance to share your starting over vision with Suzy, who is looking forward to meeting you at SOS London & SOS Brighton. NB: You will need to sign a form agreeing that we can use your short interview on our website to share your story with others, and it may also be used as part of a documentary being filmed on the day.
15.15 – 15.45
Julie Jones: Changes Forever Healing relationships, providing growth & nourishment of the human soul and spirit
‘A little bit of Sunshine with Julie Jones’
Julie is the Founder and inspiration behind Changes Forever - an organisation growing into THE place where individuals know they can move forward, when they are ready, into the sunshine after difficult times.
A warm welcome awaits you…
Speakers you may have seen at the London Event 7 March 2010
11.00 – 11.30
James Pirrie: Family Law in Partnership (FLIP) & Charlotte Friedman:The Divorce Support Group
A creative professional service to address the entire amount of an individual’s needs either through referral to a wider network of professional services or directly through our skills in therapeutic group work and legal support, advice and representation.
Family therapist Charlotte Friedman runs support groups to help manage the grief, anger and loss of separation.
11.45 – 12.15
Debbie Catt – ‘No More If Onlys’ http://www.nomoreifonlys.com
Inspirational Speaker & Coach
Overcome the setbacks in your life – especially redundancy – and achieve your ambitions.
Debbie is a highly respected and inspiring Speaker with more than 30 years’ experience in helping people overcome setbacks and achieve their goals and ambitions. Her ‘No More If Onlys’ Programme is a comprehensive series of inspirational seminars and personal coaching to help you overcome the difficulties and setbacks in your life.
Welcomed by international audiences, her presentations give encouragement and confidence to help anyone who has an unfulfilled ambition, no matter how big or small. Debbie encourages people of all ages to ‘be the best they can be’ through imparting the tried and tested skills and techniques that have guided her through a turbulent life and career. Her no nonsense advice and guidance has proved invaluable to people whatever their circumstances. Debbie also has particular expertise in providing support to help you recover from the upheaval and ordeal of redundancy http://www.helpwithredundancy.com
12.30 – 13.00
Andrew Nicholson & Diane MacDowall: Executive Relationship Coaching Relationship coaching, mentoring & training for singles and couples.
http://www.executive-relationship-coaching.co.uk
Re-discover your true identity, learn how to: love yourself 10 out of 10, create a fulfilling life on your own, and then with your ideal partner. Andrew and Diane are relationship coaches, personal development trainers and licensed tutors for Susan Jeffers, delivering “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway” and “Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love” workshops. They have both been through separation and divorce, prior to creating their ideal life together. Find out more about Diane here……
13.15 – 13.45
Dr Zanganah: Gorgeous Smile Dental Practice Dental practice providing general, cosmetic, toothwhitening, facial rejuvination and implants
Services include: general dentistry, oral health, fresh breath centre, cosmetic dentistry, smile design, tooth whitening, clear braces (invisalign) and implants.
14.00 – 15.00
SHARE YOUR STORY with Suzy Miller, creator of Starting Over Show – in 5 minutes!
It may be that your vision is to break up right without a fight; it may be to start a new business; or are you going to move forward from bereavement or another life changing event……
For one hour during the day Suzy wants to hear your starting over story. What are you starting over from at this time? What is your positive vision of where you want to be in a year’s time and what support are you seeking to get to that great place in your life?
Some of your stories will be posted on the www.sosvillage.org website to inspire others (just knowing that it IS possible to look forward to a positive future IS very inspiring). Some may be used in the documentary about the exhibitors being filmed at the shows.
Please put your name down and book your chance to share your starting over vision with Suzy, who is looking forward to meeting you at SOS London & SOS Brighton. NB: You will need to sign a form agreeing that we can use your short interview on our website to share your story with others, and it may also be used as part of a documentary being filmed on the day.
15.15 – 15.45
Julie Jones: Changes Forever Healing relationships, providing growth & nourishment of the human soul and spirit
‘A little bit of Sunshine with Julie Jones’
Julie is the Founder and inspiration behind Changes Forever - an organisation growing into THE place where individuals know they can move forward, when they are ready, into the sunshine after difficult times.
A warm welcome awaits you…
