Wogan’s Pause For Thought
April 28, 2009 by Suzy
BBC South East News
April 28, 2009 by Suzy
Meridian TV News March 2009
April 28, 2009 by Suzy
Online SOS promotions
April 27, 2009 by Suzy
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more than one way to get divorced?
April 21, 2009 by Suzy
Thank you to Jane and Glenn who share their individual divorce experiences of the legal profession. They really made me appreciate the high quality of legal advisers we had at the Starting Over Show in March and currently on our website.
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An amazing day full of courageous people
April 20, 2009 by Suzy
Information for divorce and breakup
Inspiration for Starting Over
Our SOS Event (see the video here) was full of courageous people starting their lives over. I salute you all!
Inspiration
If you are lucky enough to have met Julia Armstrong at the Starting Over Show in March, you will know what I mean when I say she is a dynamic and inspiring person.
Julia Armstrong
Pioneering coach, mentor, therapist – and international athlete
“Julia and her work are unique. She has a special gift in understanding exactly where you are, where you would like to be, and guiding you to a place where you can truly trust your inner self.” (Angela Dawes, co-founder, Micromuse Inc)
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Listen to Julia being interviewed here…..
information
Why worry about a Will when a relationship breaks up? Jaci Godman Irvine: Estate Legacy Services Wills and trusts I work with Estate Legacy Services and I am a member of the KCC Buy With Confidence Scheme.
shared stories
“A desire to know, to be safe, and we misguidedly seek that safety within the arms of another who is doing the same thing. Or in the definition of a career, or in my case in sport – if I run fast I will be loved. If someone marries me then I am definitely okay and loveable……”
Relationship coach Julia Armstrong shares her own starting over story
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sos live event news
The first ever UK Starting Over Show on 15 March 2009 hit the pages of the national press in a wave of positive publicity. What our SOS event proved was that ‘failure’ is not about having bad things happen to you – it’s about not doing anything proactive to improve the situation.
Our SOS Event (see the video here) was full of courageous people who discovered a wealth of information and inspiration and were able to take further steps in starting their lives over. I am proud of the event we created, and proud of the visitors who came and made it such an amazing day.
The winner of the Xocai healthy chocolate is………
John Wood of West Sussex, who completed our online survey on how friends and family survive relationship breakup. Happily, John has never been in that position himself but, like most of us (87.4% know someone going through breakup during the last 2 years according to our survey), John is keen to be supportive of others who are, and is glad to be able to point them in the direction of SOS Village.
What was the prize? Free registration license (WORTH $40.00) to be a Xocai distributor for anyone John knows who wants to have a home based business, and also A HEALTHY SAMPLE OF THE XOCAI CHOCOLATES worth £40.00. So John will enjoy some yummy Xocai healthy chocolate which hopefully he will share with his wife and family, and not just eat it all himself.
The results of the survey can be seen here: sossurveysummary-2008-09
diary of a sole parent
“I wrote in 2008 to a friend “We let our romance die without resort to a single doctor. Let’s not make the same mistake with our friendship”. One of the most shocking realisations post breakup can be that even if you strive for a healthy post relationship amicability, their can be little encouragement from outside forces…..”
Short Film: The first of its kind, and it’s just the beginning…… watch what happened on 15 October 2009
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Why worry about a Will when a relationship breaks up?
April 17, 2009 by Suzy
Jaci Godman Irvine: Estate Legacy Services Wills and trusts
I work with Estate Legacy Services and I am a member of the KCC Buy With Confidence Scheme.
Without resort to a doctor
April 17, 2009 by Suzy
A diary entry from 2008 which is as pertinent on this day in 2009 as it was back then……
I wrote in 2008 to a friend “We let our romance die without resort to a single doctor. Let’s not make the same mistake with our friendship”.
One of the most shocking realisations post breakup can be that even if you strive for a healthy post relationship amicability, their can be little encouragement from outside forces. “Just let go and don’t invite contact”; or “don’t you think you are being a bit controlling? Why do you `need’ to stay friends?”; or even “isn’t staying friends with your ex a bit weird? After what they did to you?”
And there is the crux of it. Who did what to who – a determined mission to apportion blame, is a natural pursuit of the media, society at large and even your best friends. So striving to form a friendship with your ex, especially if the break up circumstances were morally unpleasant, can be quite disturbing to others. Just because you may have made the leap of understanding that blame,whether before the divorce judge or before your bedroom mirror, becomes an irrelevance, others can be uncomfortable, even downright threatened, by such an absurd need to be `friends’ despite it all.
Yet who of us has not had friendships that somehow withstood disagreements, long distances and even betrayal? Even if we need to create some distance for a time, love of any kind is too precious to be left out in the cold for too long.
The key to it all, for me, is accepting three facts:
1/ The old relationship must be allowed to pass. Some may laugh at Shamanic rituals of burying the wedding dress on the top of a mountain, but anything that helps you let go and move on is a gift.
2/ Understanding that forgiveness, of yourself or others, is not required. Some things are, let’s face it, unforgivable.
3/ Not expecting an apology of any kind is also imperative to success.
With these three barriers cast aside, suddenly the possibility of a brand new relationship becomes possible. OK, it may not have the trust and familiarity of your original relationship, but time truly can work miracles, especially if you have understood that people who are afraid, unhappy or under great pressure, will not always behave like angels. Understanding your own humanity and weaknesses opens up your eyes to seeing clearly the humanity and weaknesses of others, in a non-judgemental way – even those who have really hurt you. And accepting your own part in the dance, with humility rather than shame. Then apology becomes a gift rather than a justification for the other persons moral high ground.
And when the break up is without rancour and spite? Even more reason to `stay friends’, yet just as difficult. Ending one relationship and beginning another (for that is what is involved) can benefit from skilled advice. There are relationship `doctors’ out there who can see the patterns of behaviour, spot the scripting that we have of how we see ourselves and what we believe is possible of ourselves and others. They can help us see our relationships from another country, another planet even, until we begin to see that by changing our expectations, and asking the right questions, an `impossible relationship’ can become a supportive one. Those of us who have experienced parenting classes, or been through personal self development, will know first hand the miracles that can occur if only we allow them to happen.
When I am ill, I rarely visit my GP, but search out my own remedies, or seek help from like-minded healers who will get to the root of my sickness and help me to create my own cure. I hope I can find the courage to protect the special friendship I have with my current `ex’, by finding a relationship doctor who will help us to move away from one relationship and create a new one, through letting go, accepting ourselves for all our weaknesses and foibles, and loving each other without conditions. An ideal? Why strive for anything less….
An amazing day – 15 March 2009
April 3, 2009 by Suzy
The first of its kind, and it’s just the beginning……
