resources DIY divorce
September 28, 2011 by Suzy
Where to find previous cases to use as precedents: BAILII
A list of the key cases in Family Law with reports held by BAILII where linked:
http://www.insitelawmagazine.com/familycasearchive.htm
Support for LIP’s
Psychic Divorce Horoscope Sept 2011
September 20, 2011 by Suzy
New Moon 29 August – time to make those new moon wishes
Mercury Release 9 September – Mercury finally fully functioning after heavy retro phase in August (affects communications and travel plans)
Full Moon 12 September – a good time to cut those ties and find closure
SOS Roadshow 22 September – Professional TLC, Legal and Financial advice all under one roof!
New Moon 27 September – 10 new moon wishes
Capricorn 23 December-20 January: OK Capricorns, holiday season over, its time to be up and at ‘em!
Aquarius 21 January-19 February: Look out for white feathers, its a sign from your guardian angel. I know you feel as if you are doing everything on your own, but you do have angelic support.
Pisces 20 February-20 March: Wow, Pisces, which vitamins are you on? You are rockin n’rollin right now. Go for it!
Aries 21 March-20 April: Aries, get your paints and paintbrush out. You need to release your creativity. When did you last just play? Have some fun.
Taurus 21 April-21 May: Don’t look at me like that Taurus, you know things will get better, you just have to be patient for a little bit longer. Don’t panic – just breathe and relax!
Gemini 22 May-21June: OK Gemini, STAND AWAY FROM THE CHOCOLATE AND NO ONE WILL GET HURT. Whats really bothering you? If you are really feeling that miserable – talk to someone. (SOS Roadshow at the Holiday Inn Guildford, 22 Sept – a perfect opportunity for professional TLC).
Cancer 22 June-22 July: Cancer, there’s a lovely fuzzy feeling around you this month. Am I sensing some new heart flutterings? How lovely! Let me know if I need to buy a new hat.
Leo 23 July-23 August: Right, Leo, its down to business this month. Get your ducks in a row and you too could be on Dragon’s Den, or at the very least seeing some very positive progress.
Virgo 24 August-23 September: Virgo, hang on a minute, lets just talk this through, I mean, Vegas? The Little Chapel? This is very unlike you, you’re usually so sensible and cautious. Will there be tears before bedtime? I do hope not. Watch this space.
Libra 24 September-23 October: “I’ll be seeing you, in all the old familiar places, that my heart and mind embraces, all day through…” Feeling a bit nostalgic Libra? Unfinished business? Don’t start stalking them on Facebook. Either call them or let them go.
Scorpio 24 October-22 November: Expect the best, accept, release and let go. Good luck.
Sagittarius 23 November-22 December: Keep up the good work from last month and don’t let any new opportunities slip through your fingers. Stay calm, it may not have been quite what you were expecting, but there is a silver lining.
Jane Orr is a natural clairvoyant and healer, with a formal training in psychotherapy. Jane channels a psychic forecast for each sign – and she is also a regular (and very popular!) exhibitor at the Starting Over Show.
4 questions often asked by divorcing parents but rarely said out loud:
September 14, 2011 by Suzy
How will I deal with the guilt when I look at my kids and feel that I’ve let them down?
Time. Focus on the positive outcomes you want to achieve, and let your learning be their learning.
How will I survive financially and what will I do when the kids leave home, my career has been obliterated by the restraints of parenting, and I have no financial resources left?
Be creative. Lot’s of full-time workers have lost half their pensions due to the financial crises of the last few years, so financial security is a myth. Many single parents begin new and successful businesses from home, even with young kids. Make a plan and follow your heart.
Will my kids make the same mistakes and end up getting divorced too?
It’s none of your business what they choose to do with their lives. Just be there for them. Romantic relationships are part of the journey of life, not its destination.
How will I ever feel that we are a happy family again, a whole and complete family?
You’ll find a way. I got photos taken by a professional photographer and saw how happy we looked. I realised that we were as much a ‘family’ with only one adult in the picture, as any other family.
Suzy Miller
Creator & Producer: Starting Over Show
07525 059 634
Starting Over Show
www.startingovershow.co.uk
US Divorce Pill – coming soon to the UK ?
September 8, 2011 by Suzy
“The single most powerful predictor of stress-related physical, as well as emotional illness is marital disruption.” ‘National Institute of Mental Health’ – reads one of the statistics backing up the video and testimonials for The Divorce Pill being cunningly marketed and targeted at people in the US going through divorce.
So how long before we begin to see the ads on NBC and Fox for this “cutting edge herbal technology, for which you can “buy one get one free”, being seen on UK TV?
Divorce alone costs North American business more than $6 billion each year in lost productivity, absenteeism and higher health insurance premiums and stress-related healthcare costs. (Corporate Wellness Magazine 4 Sept 2009). So it could only be a matter of time before ‘divorce medication’ is being handed out as part of Employment Assistance Programmes. In the UK, the governmentʼs Foresight Programme study on mental capital and wellbeing estimated that sickness absence, presenteeism, and labour turnover costs the country about £26bn a year – so how about the NHS making divorce pills available here on prescription? Divorce Medication instead of Divorce Mediation to reduce the rate of ‘contentious divorce’ blocking up the courts?
Suzy Miller – creator of the UK’s Starting Over from Divorce Road Show currently running in Guildford, Surrey, is alarmed by the prospect. Starting Over Show – SOS for short – is collaborating with the Ministry of Justice in promoting non-adversarial routes through divorce through the use of mediation and collaborative law:
“I get local GP surgeries in Surrey to share Starting Over Show flyers by saying to them: “don’t prescribe patients going through divorce pills and prozac – tell them to come along to a Starting Over Show!” Luckily, they agree, which is why they are happy to share the flyers. When people ‘suppress’ their pain they are unable to deal with the causes of it. Getting through a life crises involves ‘doing the pain’ – there are no short cuts or antidotes, but methods to learn and people to support you. This divorce pill is another scary step in the wrong direction.”
“The divorced or widowed are 20% more likely to have heart disease, diabetes, cancer, or other chronic conditions” (Dr Mark Hayward PHD, University of Texas) – reads a further statistic on the online ad for the pills. A 2007 study at University College London revealed that stress associated with marital struggle was found to increase the likelihood of a heart attack and other heart trouble by as much as 34%. In a recent CIPD report 38% of businesses reported a rise in mental problems such as anxiety and depression in staff over a 12 month period – an increase of 17%. The current levels of redundancy and unfair dismissals will also impact on relationships and therefore on divorce and family break-up.
With statistics like these, the prospect of GP’s handing out divorce medication could be closer than we think.
Free legal, financial and wellbeing advice at The Holiday Inn, 22 September 2011. A holistic approach to divorce, redundancy & other major life changes. www.startingovershow.co.uk
Suzy Miller
suzy@startingovershow.co.uk
07525 059 634
Expert comments from ‘divorce professionals’ available on request.
Relevant links:
Tickets available here http://www.divorceredundancybereavement.org/buy-a-ticket
The Divorce Pill http://thedivorcepill.com
