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Metro does 2 page spread on Travel Guide for Divorce (in a box)

Suzy — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:43:00 +0000

You can read the article in the Metro here: http://www.metro.co.uk/lifestyle/889358-divorce-in-a-box-a-ribbon-wrapped-gift-that-tells-you-how-to-break-up

Divorcing ‘out of the box’

Suzy — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 13:58:02 +0000

If the Big Society is to work, then we need to start with ‘the family’. Squashing what we consider a healthy family into a single box with “mummy, daddy + kids” has to stop, if we are to evolve into a co-operative nation where the word ‘support’ becomes associated with our community as a whole, instead of just government institutions like the NHS or the Courts.

I live alone with 3 children – but my family isn’t a ‘broken home’. It’s an extended family.

In the Scottish Widows report Centre for the Modern Family, Dr Rake says of the research “… married couples, lone parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts and uncles – can all create the strong caring relationships that are the hallmark of a good family life.” But what about families who are not related by blood? Like extended families including ex-partners?

As an illustration of that, my kids and I – along with their dad, bonus mum and bonus brother, appeared on Friday 23 December on BBC Breakfast TV. Sadly, people think it’s ‘weird’ to be a healthy functioning blended family comprised of ex’s and new partners. The Scottish Widows study showed that 22% of families said their family type was not valued by society, and 18% feel actively judged by society for the family model in which they live.

Stop sniping at ‘broken families’ and start praising ‘extended families’

Helping people to ‘break up right – please don’t fight’ and to allow their families to take on new forms in ways that keep them out of court and save them money, requires a collaborative and co-operative approach. Which is why more people need to give mediation and collaborative law serious attention when facing divorce. At the very least, actually talk to a real live mediator and collaborative lawyer and find out how they can – with the co-operation of financial and wellbeing professionals if desired by the couple – help a family go through a massive life change in a way that will usually save them money, keep them out of court and protect their children from becoming used as weapons in a litigious approach to breakup.

Come on Mr Cameron: Stand up for all families in their ever growing complexity, and welcome the fact that in order to achieve a healthy extended family, it requires learning new skills in collaboration. These are the very skills we need to change The Big Society from a rallying cry, into a reality.

Travel Guide for Divorce in an attractive box which includes over £500 of complementary access to skilled professional advice. Ribbon is optional. Available for £40 including vat and UK postage at www.sosdivorceinabox.com.

Using Divorce in a Box to revolutionise the break-up process

Suzy — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 19:25:13 +0000

Sam shares her experience of a potential divorce and family break up and how she is using SOS Divorce in a Box to provide information and inspiration.

My blended family on BBC TV

Suzy — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 18:51:11 +0000

On the morning of Friday 23 December, a prerecorded sequence of my blended family eating together will be show on BBC Breakfast TV, and Dr Katherine Rake will be the ‘expert’ interviewed about the ‘modern family’.

In the Scottish Widows report Centre for the Modern Family, Dr Rake says of the research “..people seem quite liberal around form. In other words they recognise that different arrangements – married couples, lone parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts and uncles – can all create the strong caring relationships that are the hallmark of a good family life.”

What won’t appear in the footage that gets used for the Friday morning piece is the SOS Divorce in a Box (ribbon is optional) – yet the Divorce in a Box is, as my daughter pointed out to me the other day, is a symbol of how our family managed to make a fractured family into a blended family (their dad, bonus mum and bonus brother are all over my place for Xmas breakfast) – since it is the WAY you break up that allows for a ‘modern blended family’ to be as healthy as a ‘traditional family’.

Just as legal and wellbeing professionals are learning to co-operate and take a multi disciplinary approach to the family breakup process, so families themselves are learning to adapt to a more co-operative way of living when the conventional family form becomes unachievable, or undesirable. Yet society seems to be lagging behind in accepting these changes: 22% of families in the study said their family type was not valued by society. 18% feel actively judged by society for te family model in which they live.

But the statistics take on a deeper significance when you include the 43% of people over 60 who live alone, and the 25% of this group living alone with no family nearby. Why is there so much social pressure to have a traditional family form, when surely the emphasis should be on encouraging families of all forms, to collaborate and work towards long term healthy relationships?

When divorcing couples focus on mediation and collaborative law as ways of saving money and stress short term, they are missing the real significance of taking a non-adversarial route. What they need to recognize are the enormous long term benefits: sustainable agreements without the desire to go to court to continue an ongoing sense of grievance; being able to both come along to the wedding of children now grown and maybe even sit on the top table with respective new partners; share in the joy of bonus babies irrespective of blood lineage…..

I believe that it is what is in the Divorce in a Box that will allow people to find the vision, tools and non-adversarial influences (like life coaching, mediation and collaborative law) to make the coming post-Christmas “divorce season” one that will ultimately lead to healthier – but not always ‘traditional’ – family models.

Suzy is selling the boxes online: £36 for the online version, and £40 for the physical version including vat and UK postage. For more information visit www.sosdivorceinabox.com

Create your own Starting Over Show

Suzy — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 11:11:29 +0000

Don’t worry – I’ll do all the work!

If you believe that a quarterly Starting Over Show event, local to you, will benefit all those people starting over from divorce, redundancy, bereavement and life’s other tough stuff, then register by clicking the link most local to you. You will of course receive free tickets and be the first to know once the event is confirmed.

I want a Starting Over Show (& free tickets please) in RH Uncovered (RH6, RH7, RH10, RH18, RH19)

I want a Starting Over Show (& free tickets please) in CHELTENHAM, GLOS

I want a Starting Over Show (& free tickets please) in GUILDFORD, SURREY

Want an SOS event somewhere else? Pop your name and email in the box below & I’ll keep you up to date with where they are being held:

What is a Starting Over Show?

Promoting Divorce in a Box

Suzy — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:17:46 +0000

For those of you who would like more people to stay out of court and use non-adversarial routes through divorce, feel free to copy the attached html code onto your webpages or blogs to promote the SOS Divorce in a Box. And if you think your resources should be made available via our online resource pack, then let me know via suzy@startingovershow.co.uk.

Scroll down for Facebook Page widget and short film about the box, plus key promotional/blog info:

Cut and paste html below the image for website promotion of box:

Text to use for website/blog information:

Travel Guide for Divorce

Travel Guide for Divorce in an attractive box which includes over £500 of complementary access to skilled professional advice: legal, financial and wellbeing maps to guide you through the journey, and show you a range of choices most people don’t realise are available to them.

Divorcing “outside of the box”. Ribbon is optional. Available for £40 including vat and UK postage at www.sosdivorceinabox.com.

Cut and paste html below the image for extra article/blog promotion of box:

Other handy web ads:

FACEBOOK

Sam shares her experience of a potential divorce and family break up and how she is using SOS Divorce in a Box to provide information and inspiration.

The world’s first Divorce in a Box

Suzy — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 09:42:31 +0000

The UK’s first ‘divorce fair’ – Starting Over Show – has now packaged up the best of what it offers in promoting non-adversarial routes through divorce – and put it into a box. A real box – supplied in different colours, some with ribbons.

“Why shouldn’t good information combined with powerful inspiration be packaged in an attractive way? I want people going through the confusion of family break up to be able to have easy access to key guidance and expert advice in a way that is more tangible than just flailing around on google,” explains the creator of SOS Divorce in a Box, Suzy Miller.

“I have taken the best resources from the Starting Over Shows and presented them in a different way. The SOS Boxes promote mediation and collaborative law, which keep people out of court, help protect the kids and save people money and stress. I am collaborating with the Ministry of Justice in promoting non-adversarial routes through divorce, and the experts partnering with me range from life coaches to financial planners.”

The box contains a media pack with videos, audio recordings and pdfs providing a wide range of resource material, including videos about divorce mediation and even audio ‘meditations’ for relaxation, positive affirmations, and forgiveness.

“It’s amazing how often people confuse divorce ‘mediation’ with ‘meditation’!” Suzy explains. “But I include meditations in the box because they are a powerful way to support people psychologically through a difficult life change. I believe in taking a holistic approach to life crises like divorce and break up, and empowering rather than ‘rescuing’ people, who need a map of how to navigate their way through.”

The boxes come in different colours, as Suzy wants both men and women to benefit from the booklets and also vouchers – over £500 worth of complementary expert services available ‘in the box’.

“Anyone buying a physical box or getting an online version, will be able to access free sessions with top experts like Francine Kaye (Channel 5′s The Wright Stuff ‘Divorce Doctor’), top UK Parenting Coach Sue Atkins, as well as financial and wellbeing support, and get a 20% discount on a managed divorce through Divorce Online.”

The Starting Over Shows have been well received because of the holistic and wellbeing focus of the events, supported by Reverend’s from the Church of England right through to support organisations like the CAB. Flyers for recent Guildford events were available via doctor’s surgeries, JobCentrePlus and family courts.

But even though the live events are very relaxed and friendly, Suzy felt that some people were still too overwhelmed by their divorce to be able to get along and attend, so she wanted to create something they could access in private, in their own time.

“I wanted the boxes to not only be incredibly useful – to provide information that guides people through a better way of doing divorce – but also to offer immense value for money by including fantastic 1-1 expert advice with top professionals in their field.”

Suzy is selling the boxes online: £36 for the online version, and £40 for the physical version including vat and UK postage. For more information visit www.sosdivorceinabox.com

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Suzy Miller
suzy@startingovershow.co.uk

07525 059 634
Expert comments from ‘divorce professionals’ available on request.

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Relevant links:

Press Pack: http://www.startingovershow.co.uk/index.php/sos-15-march-2009/press-pack-sos-divorce-in-a-box/

Divorce in a Box www.sosdivorceinabox.com

Starting Over Show www.startingovershow.co.uk

What’s inside SOS Divorce in a Box?

Suzy — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 10:36:42 +0000

Includes over £500 of vouchers for complementary 1-1 expert advice and resources

Your Starting Over Divorce in a Box contains the following:

Over £500 of vouchers for complementary 1-1 expert advice and resources including:

30 minute consultation with TV Celebrity & relationship expert Francine Kaye (worth £50)

30 minute consultation with Parenting Expert Sue Atkins (worth £47.50)

1 hour’s consultation and information pack with Jackie Rose of DivorceLIPservice: managing your own divorce as a Litigant in Person (worth £50)

1 hour consultation with financial planner Steven Hennessy

50 mins consultation with psychologist, relationship expert & author Tommaso Palumbo (worth £60)

Finding the Source of your Divorce download programme created by Naked Divorce Coach Adele Theron (worth £165)

20% discount on a Managed Services DIY divorce through Divorce Online

A photographic session with Scott Collier Photography – positive images of yourself! (worth £250)

45 minute mentoring session with Goddess Star-Monroe on “How to be a Woman” (worth £197)

(boys – you might want to make a present of this voucher!)

Free training & support from Anne Marie to create a successful new business and still have time for kids and other work commitments

WHAT ELSE IS IN THE BOX ?

A media pack containing a DVD containing videos, audio pdfs & links to online resources about:

divorce mediation

collaborative family law

DIY self-representation

life coaching & relationship skills

parenting skills

audio meditations

shared stories

WHAT DOES IT COST?

Buy the physical box here for £40 including UK postage

The online version (quicker, but you can’t keep it handy on a shelf), is £36. Click here…..

Both physical box and also the online version include:

Over £500 of complementary vouchers

Media Pack

3 SOS booklets:

Every journey needs a good map/7 stages of breakup recovery

The Nitty Gritty: Legal & Financial

Starting Over: Parenting & Wellbeing

DIFFERENT COLOURS AVAILABLE:

Currently online shop sells small cream box with ribbon and larger dark blue box (no ribbon)

Other boxes are available by contacting suzy@startingovershow.co.uk

Buy the physical box here

Buy the online version here…..

Psychic Divorce Horoscope November 2011

Suzy — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 18:39:34 +0000

New Moon 26 October – time to make those new moon wishes
Full Moon 10 November – a good time to cut those ties and find closure
Mercury Retrograde 24 November – brings delays and some chaos in travel, contracts, communications, and computers (back up everything and allow extra time for journeys)
New Moon 25 November – 10 new moon wishes

Capricorn 23 December-20 January: Gather in your harvest and don’t overspend. Things may get a little rough financially, before they get better.

Aquarius 21 January-19 February: Get some fresh air, you have been spending too much time indoors. And while you are out strolling, allow some of those ideas of yours to expand.

Pisces 20 February-20 March: Take some time out for yourself, you have been looking after everyone else and deserve a little “me” time. It needn’t cost a fortune, but you need a little something.

Aries 21 March-20 April: You’ve done your best for someone, in fact, beyond the call of duty. You can’t do anymore, and they will have to follow their own destiny now.

Taurus 21 April-21 May: There’s definitely light at the end of the tunnel, Taurus. You need to take control of your finances and your physical health. Can you get a second opinion? I would.

Gemini 22 May-21June: You’re looking a lot better Gemini. In fact, I’d say you were back in the saddle. Well done! Now whats next? Ah yes, sorting the house out. Good luck.

Cancer 22 June-22 July: There’s an air of gentle change around you this month. Don’t over do things, but do enjoy these last days of autumn sunshine. And be kind to yourself.

Leo 23 July-23 August: You need to pace yourself more. You keep accelerating at a mean rate and then burning out fast. Try and find a better daily routine and delegate.

Virgo 24 August-23 September: Luck is in the air for you Virgo. Its not like you, but I see you being very spontaneous and taking risks. Go on, you might enjoy it.

Libra 24 September-23 October: There’s big change going on around you Libra. You are feeling the strong pull of the planets. Something new and exciting is about to happen, don’t blow it.

Scorpio 24 October-22 November: You know what you have to do. I don’t envy you that decision, you know your whole life will change forever. But do you really have a choice?

Sagittarius 23 November-22 December: Alls well that ends well. You just haven’t quite arrived yet. Don’t give up.

Jane Orr is a natural clairvoyant and healer, with a formal training in psychotherapy. Jane channels a psychic forecast for each sign – and she is also a regular (and very popular!) exhibitor at the Starting Over Show.

What is a Starting Over Show?

Suzy — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 19:44:32 +0000