Inspiration

Welcome to the Heart Zone at SOS – free 10 minute sessions of yoga, meditation, Dadshouse cooking recipes and feng shui throughout the day:  Click here to see more…..

Letting Go and Starting Over: join us for an amazing shared experience at the end of both events (5.30pm)

Are you ready to meet someone looking for a serious relationship, but have fun searching?  Then come to the party!

Why not join us at the Starting Over Show balls the night before the live events, at the Hilton Metropole in London on Saturday 6th March or the Hilton Brighton on 27th March?

Meet lots of new single people ready to Start Over….

Bring your bills to the show for a free health check with Utility Warehouse and we’ll show you a different way to manage them.

Utility Warehouse is recommended by Which for the last 3 years as the best for energy and as Best Buy for Bundled Broadband and Telephone and Calls. Find out more here……

shared stories

Debbie Catt has survived divorce, bereavement and 6 redundancies!  More than that – Debbie has learned how to cope with just about anything and can help you learn how to do the same……….

Read Debbie’s starting over story here……

If you are starting over from redundancy or want to take on a new business, see some of the opportunities open to you here……

See other personal stories here…

Inspirational healing story: The Toll Booth
A healing story:  Listen to our audio story here……..

Talk to our inspirational exhibitors now….

information

Politicians and the media are supporting our petition – please sign it!
Break up right – please don’t fight!

sos live event news

SHARE YOUR STORY with Suzy Miller, creator of Starting Over Show

It may be that your vision is to break up right without a fight; it may be to start a new business; or are you going to move forward from bereavement or another life changing event……

For one hour during the day I want to hear your starting over story. What are you starting over from at this time? What is your positive vision of where you want to be in a year’s time and what support are you seeking to get to that great place in your life?

Some of your stories will be posted on the www.sosvillage.org website to inspire others (just knowing that it IS possible to look forward to a positive future IS very inspiring). Some may be used in the documentary about the exhibitors being filmed at the shows.

Downloadable pdfs of the speakers schedule, Heart Zone schedule, floor plan and other useful downloads: http://www.startingovershow.co.uk/index.php/exhibition-pack/

The First EVER London Starting Over Show

7 March – Hilton London Metropole

Free legal, financial & well being surgeries

Low cost workshops

Hear our radio ad for the London show…….

To get good information to help you start over, talk to our legal and financial exhibitors now.

free mini book downloads

Access to resources and information…….

Resource links

Other great resources for starting over

To find professionals who are all personally recommended visit CertainShops – professionals online

Resources for the Gals

Resources for the Guys

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FOR ALL EXHIBITORS AND VISITORS to join in

A letting go and starting over ceremony – a shared experience

Separation, divorce, losing job and bereavement are some of the most stressful things we will all have to face in our lives.

With separation and divorce comes a maelstrom of feelings and emotions including anger, hurt, judgement, remorse and guilt. Often we feel the victim; things have been done to us, outcomes and events are not as we would have wished or expected.  We feel bad; regardless of whether the separation or divorce is amicable or contentious.

We cannot change events and we cannot change the other person involved; how they think or feel or what they do necessarily.  But we can change the way we think, feel and act.

We can alter the focus of our attention away from the other person, the person we feel has hurt us; and stop putting our energies into what we don’t want.

Instead we can start focusing on ourselves; putting our energies into what we do want for ourselves.

Ceremony outline – What will happen?

1) Invitation to let go of unhelpful, negative thoughts, feelings and ways of being.

2) Acknowledgment of the space that letting go creates; and the value and importance of this space in providing us with an opportunity to focus and clarify what we do want for ourselves in the future – our personal future intentions

3) Invitation to new ways of being ; enabling us to focus on ourselves and what we do want in our lives, with new supportive thoughts, feelings and intentions that help us move forward with confidence

The ceremony will be interactive and involve visual representations for letting go and the invitation to the new.  You don’t have to be with a partner – you can do it alone or even with a friend.

The ceremony will begin at 5.30pm and last for about 20 minutes.

SOS is grateful to the exhibitors who have put in their time and effort to make this shared experience possible:

Rhythm of Life

Julia Armstrong

Jeanette Mercer

Scott Collier

Show Brochure  brochure_sos_web 03.02.10

Speaker’s schedule poster (coming soon)

(or see the Speakers information on the website at: http://www.startingovershow.co.uk/index.php/speakers-at-sos/ )

Heart Zone poster  (coming soon)

(Or see the Heart Zone information on the website at:http://www.startingovershow.co.uk/index.php/heart-zone/ )

Join us for the letting go and starting over ceremony at the end of the shows

Come and share your starting over story with Suzy and be recorded on camera: download the poster here: share your story poster

All our Information Zone exhibitors are here……

All our Inspiration Zone exhibitors are here……

Enjoy the day!

A comfortable and calm environment, sponsored by Ambient Lounge Bean Bags, where you can relax and enjoy some free taster sessions……

LET GO AND MOVE ON

Rhythm of Life will guide you through a simple, relaxing, empowering meditation that focuses on a very important person – you!

A meditation which will help you let go of what is blocking your life, invite new supportive thoughts and feelings; and help to create a vision of a new and positive future.

TAKE TIME OUT TO REFLECT, REJUVENATE AND RENEW……ITS YOUR SPACE!

FREE 10 minute sessions throughout the day

Destress and relaxation Yoga techniques – complete beginners welcome!

Take 10 minutes out of your day to de-stress and relax – and reap the rewards of a happier mood in the day and a peaceful sleep at night.

Join Gina Hardy and Emma Gatsby for FREE 10 minute “De-stress tricks using Yoga”  during the day – in the Heart Zone.

Feng Shui your workspace – essential when working from home!

Want to know how to set up your new space or reinvent your current set up at home or work to maximise on comfort and opportunity?

Try some tried and tested Feng Shui tips to enhance your life and move on.  Easy to do and sustain . Powerful ways to weave a bit of magic into your life.

Rosa d’Morgan provides 15 minute talks sharing her know-how, for free, at SOS London & Brighton.  She shows how to give you the edge in creating a workspace that will make you more productive – so you can make more money!  Find out more about Rosa here……

The comfortable Zen Loungers are provided by Ambient Lounge

Are you having problems agreeing who pays for what?

Are there children involved?

Are you worried about mounting solicitors’ fees?

Are you unable to talk to your partner without getting into an argument?

Have you considered professional mediation?

What is mediation?

Mediation is a process entered into voluntarily by two parties in dispute where a neutral third party will help them to find a solution to their issues in a confidential environment. It aims to find a mutual compromise in which all parties feel that their needs and wishes are being treated fairly and it can be conducted face-to-face or in separate rooms.

Where couples are separating, therefore, the mediator will help the couple to make arrangements for their children, future housing, division of assets, future maintenance etc However, mediation is NOT marriage guidance or relationship counselling. It is not about reconciliation and bringing people back together. If you are concerned about your or your children’s safety, this can be discussed at the initial meeting.

Why should I consider mediation?

When relationships break down, people are often hurt, angry, bitter and confused. This may lead to them behaving unfairly, selfishly or out of character, making it very difficult for the other party to make him or herself heard and understood. Eventually, communication breaks down completely. By talking through an impartial mediator, both parties are given equal opportunity to state their needs and feelings openly, without the risk of aggravating the situation further. The aim of mediation is to resume communication.

Are mediators lawyers?

Mediators come from a variety of backgrounds including family lawyers, Court Reporting Officers (who report to the Court on issues regarding children), Family Therapists etc. They should have been trained by one of the professional bodies who comprise the Family Mediation Council and, if you are seeking public funding, have been assessed as competent to conduct Publicly Funded Mediation by the Legal Services Commission.

Who pays for mediation?

The service is paid for by the parties in dispute. However the costs incurred are significantly less than the cost of going to court. Costs of mediation will, of course, vary from service to service but are unlikely to exceed £1,000 each. The average financial court case takes around six months to complete and could easily cost around £20,000.

Public funding may be available to pay your fees and you will be assessed to see whether you are eligible at the first meeting

Why pay for mediation when I already have a solicitor?

Mediation fees are significantly less than legal fees; mediation reaches mutual agreement faster than going to court; and mediation is considerably less stressful than going to court. What’s more, the work that your solicitor will need to do to implement any settlement reached in mediation will be minimal in comparison.

How can I be sure that mediation is safe?

Anything discussed during mediation must be known to both parties but to no-one else. All negotiations are private and cannot be used in any future court proceedings. At the end of the mediation, you will be provided with a summary of the discussions to give to your solicitor.

Mediation can be undertaken without your partner being present, and children need only seen when it is absolutely necessary.

What is the consequence of not seeking mediation?

If you and your partner cannot come to an agreement over finances and/or arrangements for your children, you may end up in court and incur enormous legal costs – and undergo considerable stress.

Even if your separation is amicable, without a written, formal agreement on children and/or finances, you may face problems or a financial claim by your former partner some time in the future. For example, your former partner may claim a share in an inheritance or lottery win.

Article made available by Lesley Baker of Lambda Mediation

I think the Government should give ‘marriage vouchers’ to all married couples prior to their wedding, the same as they give vouchers for national health glasses and early years’ schooling. These vouchers should contribute to the cost of:

1/ A relationship coaching session – ideally one that teaches communication skills and a vision board for the shared future, to make sure the couple want the same things.

The vouchers should, in my opinion, definitely NOT be valid for Relate or other forms of ‘counseling’ – there is much confusion over counseling and coaching.  Coaching is focused on the future and taking proactive responsibility, irrespective (whilst not in any way ignoring) what has gone on in the past.  The choice of which relationship coach the couple uses should be down to them – not from some prescribed government list.

2/ The voucher should also entitle the couple to some sessions with a trained mediator, to create a living together or pre-nup agreement.  In a grown up responsible relationship, a couple should be able to agree on how they would split finances and share parenting should the relationship end.  It may not sound romantic, but fighting over the spoils in a divorce court lacks romance too.

I think the State has a responsibility to support couples in marriage prior to legally marrying them – especially as the State bears such a high financial cost when marriage breaks down. If you start a new business you can get free help from Business Link – if you start a new marriage you get nothing.

Why should the use of these vouchers be ‘compulsory’ prior to being eligible for a legal civil wedding?

Because I think making the use of the vouchers compulsory would be as sensible as making seat belts compulsory.  The State spends a great deal of public money on courts blocked up with fighting couples – and 10% of children from those broken relationships show suicidal tendencies according to recent reports.

The UK divorce laws are a mess and need changing, but changing the law alone will not solve the problem.  We need to support couples getting married in the same way we support new businesses.

What do YOU think?

Inspiration

What about the kids?

Children are often left in the dark with the complexity of break up.  But I am searching out information that is aimed directly at the kids.  You’ll find it on this page:

My parents are divorcing – whose listening to me?

Please sign our petition online here:
Break up right – please don’t fight!

Are you ready to meet someone looking for a serious relationship, but have fun searching?  Then come to the party!

Why not join us at the Starting Over Show balls the night before the live events, at the Hilton Metropole in London on Saturday 6th March or the Hilton Brighton on 27th March?

Meet lots of new single people ready to Start Over….

shared stories

Yoga teacher and relationship educator Gina Hardy shares her story here…..

See other personal stories here…

Inspirational healing story: The Mermaid’s Song
A healing story:  Listen to our audio story here……..

diary of a sole parent

My children helped create a list of instructions for parents going through breakup and finding new partners.  They based it on the Ten Commandments!

The kids rewrite the 10 Commandments……

Why did I create the Starting Over Shows? Find out here……
Talk to our inspirational exhibitors now….

information

How do we start up in business when we are at home with the kids?

Here are some excellent options open to you……

sos live event news

Tickets at last!

For those of you who have bought tickets, they will be attached to your version of this online magazine.  If you still haven’t bought your tickets, they are still available at only £3 each if you buy online (click the button below)

The First EVER London Starting Over Show

Coming soon on 7 March – Hilton London Metropole

Free legal, financial & well being surgeries

Low cost workshops

Hear our radio ad for the London show…….

To get good information to help you start over, talk to our legal and financial exhibitors now.

free mini book downloads

Access to resources and information…….

Resource links

Other great resources for starting over

To find professionals who are all personally recommended
visit CertainShops – professionals online

Resources for the Gals

Resources for the Guys

Promotions:

KEY SOS SPONSOR Dateline Platinum - national dating agency

Join Dateline Platinum now – benefit from free events membership

If you join Dateline Platinum before Sunday 14th February 2010 you will benefit from free membership of Dateline Events, giving you the opportunity to meet more like-minded single people in a friendly and fun environment, and saving you £50!

To take advantage of this great offer, call us now on 0800 840 1857

We look forward to meeting you at the Starting Over Show.

In partnership with:

See our other partners with SOS here...... 

All the things you need to know about breaking up and starting over in one
SOS

Useful Information

Honest Communication

Personal Transformation

Starting Over Show is part of Certain Shops Ltd. Tel: 0208 8167281 Textphone
18001 0208 8167281

www.certainshops.com Registered in
England & Wales Company no.
5685386 VAT no. 880175810

Registered office North Park Lodge
South Street East Hoathly Lewes E Sussex BN8 6DS

TWO: ‘Don’t think new partners buying presents and chocolate will make them take the place of my real mum/dad. Kids don’t worship false idols.’

THREE:  ‘You shall not take the name of each other in vain. Remember the day you said ‘I love you’ and know that love lasts forever, even if the relationship doesn’t. And if your love has gone, good manners will do.‘

FOUR: ‘Remember our day of rest, and which parent we spend it with, should include us in the decision making process.’

FIVE:  ‘Honor both father and mother – treat each other with at least the same level of respect you would give to a complete stranger.‘

SIX:  ‘Your old relationship may be dead, but don’t kill the new one – you need a working relationship with your co-parent whether you like it or not.‘

SEVEN:  ‘When you take a new partner, keep us kids informed through the process – don’t just say “here’s your new dad/mum, the last one’s in the bin”.‘

EIGHT:  ‘You shall not steal my childhood. Be honest with me – but that doesn’t mean you can dump all your emotional baggage on me either.‘

NINE:  ‘You shall not bear false witness or lie – but neither can you slag off our mother or father even ‘out of earshot’ – we kids hear everything.’

TEN:  ‘Appreciate what you have with us and don’t compare it to what others have – but now that I have two homes instead of one, that also means double the presents, shopping trips and holidays. OK?’

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Inspiration for Starting Over

Please sign our petition online here: Break up right – please don’t fight!

Free legal, financial & well being surgeries

Low cost workshops

The First EVER London Starting over Show

Coming soon on 7 March Hilton London Metropole

Tickets are now available (if you haven’t already ordered yours) at £3 each if you buy online.  Just click the ‘buy now’ button above.

Hear our radio ad for the London show…….

Inspiration

Our SOS Makeover Star Michelle shares her Starting Over Experience:

To see a video snapshot of that big day, take a look at the short film:

Read the full version of Michelle’s SOS Makeover here…..

Why not join us at the Starting Over Show ball at the Hilton Metropole in London on Saturday 6th March or the Hilton Brighton on 27th March? 

Meet lots of new single people ready to Start Over….

Talk to our  inspirational exhibitors now….

Inspirational healing story: The Little Parrot

A healing story: have you ever felt that you are trying to do more than is possible, with no help from others?  Listen to our audio story here……..

information

Collaborative law – what is it exactly?

Two of our SOS team explain what makes the collaborative process so different……

To get good information to help you start over, talk to our legal and financial exhibitors now.

shared stories

It’s tough being friends with your Ex – but Nici succeeded and she shares her own story with us here…….

Feel the fear – and do it anyway: Diane shares her starting over story here…..

See other personal stories here:

sos live event news

My daughter Cyd wants to support other children (she’s 13) whose parents are going through break up or divorce, and has started a petition to encourage Government to change the divorce laws and to actively support less combative ways of break up.

Cyd hopes to be at both live events (we need to check her dad’s ok with this first!) gathering signatures.  You can sign the petition now online here:

Break up right – please don’t fight!

diary of a sole parent

My own experiences of starting over from break up led to the creation of the Starting Over Shows, and the resource website www.sosvillage.org.

Why did I create the Starting Over Shows?  Find out here……

free mini book downloads

Access to resources and information…….

Resource links

Other great resources for starting over

To find professionals who are all personally recommended visit CertainShops – professionals online

Resources for the Gals

Resources for the Guys

KEY SOS SPONSOR

Dateline Platinum - national dating agency

Promotions:

Join Dateline Platinum now – benefit from free events membership

If you join Dateline Platinum before Sunday 14th February 2010 you will benefit from free membership of Dateline Events, giving you the opportunity to meet more like-minded single people in a friendly and fun environment, and saving you £50!

To take advantage of this great offer, call us now on 0800 840 1857

We look forward to meeting you at the Starting Over Show.

In partnership with:

Starting Over Show

www.startingovershow.co.uk

All the things you need to know about breaking up and starting over in one SOS

Useful Information

Honest Communication

Personal Transformation

Starting Over Show is part of Certain Shops Ltd. Tel: 0208 8167281  Textphone 18001 0208 8167281

www.certainshops.com Registered in England & Wales  Company no. 5685386  VAT no. 880175810

Registered office North Park Lodge  South Street  East Hoathly  Lewes  E Sussex  BN8 6DS