Two new SOS live events & how colour can change the way you feel
October 1, 2009 by Suzy
Information for divorce and breakup
Inspiration for Starting Over
Our first SOS Event (see the video here) was full of courageous people starting their lives over, and now we are to put on two more events in March 2010, including the first ever London fair of it’s kind.
We also offer free advice and wellbeing support RIGHT NOW for a couple facing breakup and divorce……
Inspiration
Did you know how strong the effect of colour is on how you feel – and how you make others feel too?
Bernay Laity
Colour psychologist and image consultant
Colour psychologist Bernay Laity tells us how she was inspired to become an expert in her field and how she uses her talent to help others.
“Growing up with a Dad who was a gardener and keen outdoors enthusiast gave me a great appreciation of the natural world and I became fascinated with the changes in shapes, colours and textures of nature as each season passed from one to the next. But my work as interior designer really cemented my passion for colour as I began to notice that it could have a profound effect on a person’s wellbeing. I became curious about why clients picked the colours that they did and noticed that they seemed also to pick colours that reflected their personality.’
Click here to read more about Bernay Laity and listen to her podcast interview….
Talk to our other inspirational exhibitors now….
Inspirational short film:
information
Do husbands and wives undervalue the financial value of the houseparent? Would you pay £30,000 for a parent to stay home and bring up the children?
That’s the estimated value of the stay at home mum should you have to replace her. With the Conservative Party openly committing to making Pre-Nups more binding, will women themselves value their worth as stay at home mums?
To get good information to help you start over, talk to our legal and financial exhibitors now.
shared stories
Life really can begin at 40! We are sharing a great true story (with the writer’s permission) from social network site www.confidentladies.com.
“The day I returned home from this lovely weekend with my friends my husband was leaving the house and I returned to a half empty home as he had taken what he wanted while I was away…. ”
See other personal stories here:
sos live event news
Dates for the next shows and tickets (£3 each) are available now online from our home page
It is likely that you will know someone thinking about or going through divorce or break up – wouldn’t it be great if you could offer them the opportunity of free legal, financial and wellbeing surgeries and taster sessions to help them choose a non-combative and positive way forward?
Well you can – send them this link to the ‘Be The Best Ex” initiative……
Click here to download information pack: sos-divorce-relationship-makeover1
diary of a sole parent
How do we begin to change the negative attitudes about divorce and the way we think about our Ex?
When I stuck my new Iphone in the faces of three of my friends and video’d them, I asked them a question they had never been asked before.
“Say something nice about your Ex” I demanded. The result was not only a two minute short film, but as they wrestled with the subject matter this was a learning experience for me too…..
Continue reading the article here…..
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dating in the dark
June 24, 2009 by Suzy
Dating in the Dark by @suzymiller
Those first terrifying tentative steps into dating after 10 years of solid coupledom and 6 years of motherhood seem, looking back on it, like scenes from an old black and white comedy. Not just any old comedy either – one without any sound except the relentless plug of the piano and a plot line that threatened at any time to tumble from absurd humour into a heart-rending tragedy.
And the main narrative of these comedies? Dating sites and speed networking of course – de rigeur for the modern single woman, who wants a wider choice than that offered by the beer soaked local hostelries or the few loan single men brave enough (and smart enough, if they want a ratio of 10 women to 1 man) to Salsa in the village hall. Keeping those delights as part of my ‘social’ life, I took those first bold steps into actual concerted dating via the enticing promise of online shopping for men.
Well to tell the truth, I was harried and coerced into it – having had enormous fun helping my friend create her profile and do pick and mix online, it was only right that I created my own profile and dived in. It all made good sense – using the search facility to avoid guys who are smokers or not interested in children, or who in any way contravene the ‘non negotiables’ list we all need to write for ourselves and stick up on the fridge so we never forget them.
But then there were those horrible gaps when no-one responds, those endless profiles that all begin to sound the same – it was great for reminding me that dating should be a game, fun and involve large doses of humour, but when it came to wanting to seek out a long term life partner it just seemed strangely like taking the long way round.
I’ve attempted to Salsa with men half my height, counselled drunken suitors in the local pub, snogged a lovely man at a bus stop thinking “my god I’m 40 what if someone sees me?” and then remembered that these are things I didn’t do enough of when I was 20. Dating sites led to many conversations but only a couple of dates, mainly because of fear and finding too many things wrong about someone by just reading their profile, and being in too much of a hurry.
So I’m beginning to think about the old fashioned way – matchmaking. And I guess that is what a modern dating agency provides. The cost initially put me off, but then I reasoned that a man looking for a relationship rather than just a distraction, is more likely to put his hand in his pocket, so why shouldn’t I?
The old silent film of relationships going in circles has come to the end of the reel, and now I feel ready for the quirky romantic comedy, in full technicolor and the promise of a happy ending.
So it’s no-more supermarket shopping for men for me. Spending my summer evenings instead down the allotment sowing seeds, enjoying the sunsets and remembering to water occasionally. And wondering if perhaps, by signing up with a dating agency complete with proper interviews and, most importantly, real human beings to support the process and give advice rather than just `dating tips’ on a website, I may find myself not weeding alone in the future. Still fancy snogging at the bus stop though.
Suzy Miller is the creator and producer of the Starting Over Shows which provide information and inspiration to people dealing with life changing situations such as divorce and relationship breakdown.
This blog is also posted on the Dateline Platinum website – see blog and comments here……
