Two new SOS live events & how colour can change the way you feel

Information for divorce and breakup

Inspiration for Starting Over

Our first SOS Event (see the video here) was full of courageous people starting their lives over, and now we are to put on two more events in March 2010, including the first ever London fair of it’s kind.

We also offer free advice and wellbeing support RIGHT NOW for a couple facing breakup and divorce……

Inspiration

Did you know how strong the effect of colour is on how you feel – and  how you make others feel too?

Bernay Laity

Colour psychologist and image consultant

Colour psychologist Bernay Laity tells us how she was inspired to become an expert in her field and how she uses her talent to help others.

“Growing up with a Dad who was a gardener and keen outdoors enthusiast gave me a great appreciation of the natural world and I became fascinated with the changes in shapes, colours and textures of nature as each season passed from one to the next. But my work as interior designer really cemented my passion for colour as I began to notice that it could have a profound effect on a person’s wellbeing. I became curious about why clients picked the colours that they did and noticed that they seemed also to pick colours that reflected their personality.’

Click here to read more about Bernay Laity and listen to her podcast interview….

Talk to our other inspirational exhibitors now….

Inspirational short film:

Talking about the Ex!

information

Do husbands and wives undervalue the financial value of the houseparent?  Would you pay £30,000 for a parent to stay home and bring up the children?

That’s the estimated value of the stay at home mum should you have to replace her.  With the Conservative Party openly committing to making Pre-Nups more binding, will women themselves value their worth as stay at home mums?

Read the full article here…….

To get good information to help you start over, talk to our legal and financial exhibitors now.

shared stories

Life really can begin at 40!  We are sharing a great true story (with the writer’s permission) from social network site www.confidentladies.com.

“The day I returned home from this lovely weekend with my friends my husband was leaving the house and I returned to a half empty home as he had taken what he wanted while I was away…. ”

Read the full story here…..

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Dates for the next shows and tickets (£3 each) are available now online from our home page

It is likely that you will know someone thinking about or going through divorce or break up – wouldn’t it be great if you could offer them the opportunity of free legal, financial and wellbeing surgeries and taster sessions to help them choose a non-combative and positive way forward?

Well you can – send them this link to the ‘Be The Best Ex” initiative……

Click here to download information pack: sos-divorce-relationship-makeover1

diary of a sole parent

How do we begin to change the negative attitudes about divorce and the way we think about our Ex?

When I stuck my new Iphone in the faces of three of my friends and video’d them, I asked them a question they had never been asked before.

“Say something nice about your Ex” I demanded. The result was not only a two minute short film, but as they wrestled with the subject matter this was a learning experience for me too…..

Continue reading the article here…..

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Access to resources and information…….

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Other great resources for starting over

To find professionals who are all personally recommended visit CertainShops – professionals online

online social network for women ‘starting over’ Confident Ladies

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We must ban divorce! (letter to The Times)

I have received the draft of a letter which I lay out below from an individual who is very much against divorce, to the point that he feels we should ban it altogether…….

Ban Divorce I say! (Letter to The Times) by Lord Goebbles-Glaxo-Smith

Bravo I say to that John Marcotte chappy who is defying the myth that Californians are a bunch of liberal untrustworthy hippies, and instead he is fighting the good fight to ban that abomination of our modern times – Divorce! And bravo to my good friend Lady Preach for her intelligent speech the other day about female celebrities who take their husband’s to the cleaners and suggestion that we banish them to an island where they can live out their miserable lives on a 24 hour TV reality show.

If only we could turn back the clock and cleanse our society of this aberration enshrined in our legal system, then we never again would be forced to listen to that blonde woman with the large breasts singing D-I-V-O-R-C-E as we struggle to turn back to Radio 3 whilst negotiating a particularly tricky bend driving the Bentley to the family estate in the Cotswolds. An estate torn apart by the destructive and unforgivable legal decision that left my Ex wife with more than I wanted her to have.

A study recently of 8,652 people between the ages of 51 and 61 found those who were divorced or widowed had 20% more chronic health problems than those who were still married. Well, there you have it – getting divorced is unconstitutional because it causes cancer. If these liberal scallywags are going to fine me every time I forget to put a seatbelt on, then surely they should protect my pocket – I mean health – by making divorce a capitol offence?

“Divorce has a lingering, detrimental impact on health that even remarriage cannot fully repair”, the Chicago study suggests. And that must be true, because my remarriage to a stonking rich society girl has not in anyway cured my persistent gout, which is clearly down to the trauma I suffered from that witch, who once had the honour of being known as `Lady Goebbles-Glaxo-Smith’.

All this fuss about Viagra being at the centre of divorce cases because it encourages men to cheat on their wives. For goodness sakes, we don’t need drugs to do that! And when you consider that (according to the Grant Thornton divorce survey of 2008) that in 91% of cases women filed for the divorce, the main reason consistently being ‘extra marital affair’, then it is clear to even an idiot that if women don’t want their husbands to do what comes naturally to any full blooded male, then they should become lesbians – which I believe to be legal in this country.

Let us get back to how it was in the good old days, and blessed be the political party that returns us to true old fashioned family values. At the very least we could return to the more enlightened times prior to 1960 when the divorce rate was very low, mainly because it took 7 years to get one – which gave those unlucky enough to be subject to such a humiliation time to redirect a few funds here and there and make sure the villa in Spain was safely in the hands of one’s Nephew, who hates the sun and can’t swim.

And what about the psychological issues, eh? Compared with no disorder, those with a psychiatric disorder are more likely to be separated or divorced (14 per cent compared to 7 per cent). They are less likely to be married or cohabiting (62 per cent compared to 67 per cent).

There once again is a clear reason for banning divorce altogether. What are we going to do with all those mentally ill people who don’t have a wife or husband to care for them? Wandering the streets, that’s what – are we not supposed to be a caring society? Make them stay married, I say. The upper classes have been putting up with mad spouses for centuries – why should the commoners have it better than us?

Some of those liberal ‘collaborative’ lawyers down the club have been trying to convince me that the current laws need changing – but they seem to want to make it even easier to get divorced! “Why is it that we aim to encourage parties to put the past behind them and yet we start by insisting that 65% present issues of fault (84,129 out of 128,290)? “ They winge. “Our laws are now almost 40 years old (the 73 act was a slight remodelling of the 69 act) and we must reform!” I agree we should reform, but several brandies later I was still unable to shift my deep conviction that when a man marries a woman she is his for life, and if he really must get rid of her, there is always the “Oh I didn’t see her standing behind me when I backed the Bentley out of the garage” routine.

The fact is that first marriages have halved since 1970 whereas re-marriages have doubled. This means that people clearly like being married, they just don’t seem to be very good at sticking to the same partner.

It’s really not hard to stay with the same person year in year out as long as you approach it from an intelligent, and moral perspective. Separate rooms – houses if you can afford it – allow for privacy and individual pursuits. And I suggest also a ‘mission statement’ placed prominently on the fridge, inspired by the John Marcotte t-shirt I bought off Facebook: “Till death us do part – and you’re not dead yet”.

Yours most sincerely,

Lord Goebbles-Glaxo-Smith
Blog: www.oldfashionedfamilyvalues(mine).com

Mayo Wynne Baxter free legal surgery London & Brighton SOS

At SOS London 7 March 2010, and also SOS Brighton 28 March 2010, south coast law firm Mayo Wynne Baxter LLP will be running a free surgery covering all the options, including mediation and collaborative law.

It is advisable to book your space at the free legal surgery in advance by contacting Linda Lamb or Alan Larkin and letting them know you would like a free initial consultation to learn how they can help you.

COLLABORATIVE LAW & MEDIATION. What do these mean?

To help you Start Over you need someone to explain to you what options are available to sort out the issues. Mayo Wynne Baxter’s Family Team can help you during a free half hour appointment at the Starting Over Show by going through the options and helping you to decide what will be best for you.

Possibly COLLABORATIVE LAW will be the right choice for you, it has worked for Madonna and Guy Ritchie and many others. This is a new and exciting way forward where you sit around the table and sort out your problems with your ex partner with the benefit of your lawyer sitting there with you.
Perhaps MEDIATION will be the way forward for you and your family to talk through the issues. This may also include the children having a chance to have their say.
The most important thing is that you feel comfortable with your family lawyer. The free meeting gives you a chance to check us out.  At the end of the free meeting we will give you an information pack which will include information about the choices and also about other support that will help you.  After you have read the information at your leisure you will know what you want to do next.

See us at SOS London & SOS Brighton, although it may be safer to book ahead to ensure you get that free half hour.  Click here on the link to our website or call us:

Linda Lamb 01273 223223 or Alan Larkin 01273 223206

Mayo Wynne Baxter LLP Family Law team:

Linda Lamb

Alan Larkin

Robert Williams

Charles Le May

Wogan’s Pause For Thought

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