Why I’m putting on the Starting Over Shows

Suzy Miller (center) with ex partner and his new wife

My partner ended our 10 year relationship in 2003.  Our three children were aged 6, 4 and 1 at the time, and it was the most painful and traumatic  experience of my life.  However, less than 6 years on, I am grateful that my ex had the courage to end a relationship that was not truly feeding either of us and we now have a healthy respect for each other.

It was tough getting to where I am now, and on the way I learnt that accessing the right information, support and help both legally, financially and emotionally was essential.  My ex partner is married to a lovely girl who the kids love and we effectively co-parent, living in the same village, sharing the same values and sometimes it amazes me how we got to be in such a good place despite some very difficult times getting here.

It takes courage and vision and a determination to believe in a positive future when life seems nothing but a struggle, but the joy of children is that they provide a massive incentive to make that extra effort.  It is not a journey anyone needs to make alone.  There are skilled people who can help with all aspects of Starting Over who are there to be accessed via the www.startingovershow.co.uk website.

Information and Inspiration are what helped me move forward in my life.  I want to make those resources available to other people through the Starting Over Shows, and through the SOS Village resource hub.

We are ending both 2010 SOS events with a mass ‘Letting Go & Starting Over Ceremony”, and also collecting signatures for a petition, instigated by my 13 year old daughter, to demand changes to the UK divorce laws, entitled: “Break up right – please don’t fight”.

As you can see, Starting Over Show is more than just an ‘exhibition’ – it’s a new way of thinking.

Best wishes

Suzy Miller